Approaching this birth as a Doula and with everything I now knew from doing this work, I had questions. This is my birth and so I should have a say in how it needs to go down right? I am not crazy in thinking this, right? Well, I went and sought some support from the group. Sharing that I didn’t want any routine midwife appointments because well, I wasn’t sick, I was pregnant. I was healthy and I ate REALLY well so I didn’t feel I needed to be poked and prodded every 2 weeks. I wanted to tune into my body and trust it completely and if at any point it was not well, I'll heed the call and only then will I give someone a call to have a look at me.
One of the very many reminders for me was this:
- If you are at home, at the birth center, at the hospital giving birth, you are most powerful person in the room…not the one in the white coat, not the registrar, not the consultant, not the doula, not the midwife and NO-THING can happen without your consent. Nothing. Think deeply on this and you will begin to see how powerful you are as a birthing mama. Yes, persuasions may come, yes “suggestions” may come, yes “recommendations” may come and they may be quite strong, but unless you say yes, everything is at a halt.