It’s taken me a while to put it down on paper. Partly because it felt like some part of me will be dying once I start to write this down or that the most perfect day of my life will now begin to fade. It is a memory I want to hang on to forever but then I remember, it was because some women had shared their stories with me that I had a fire burning inside that felt and still feels like it reached into my soul and changed and challenged all my ideas.
So here it is...the Free birth of Uma Grace Sady.
Freebirth which is also called Unassisted childbirth is where an informed woman chooses to give birth with no medical care. This is what I finally came to choose for the birth of my second daughter who was born at home, into my husband's hands. ‘Finally’ being the key word here, as this was really not I was thinking from the beginning but as time went by and as I read and became more and more informed, it became clear what I wanted.
She was born in water and we found out just as she was coming out that she was breech (in lay mans terms, bum first) and I went with the flow anyway. It was magical, it was awe-inspiring and it was one of the most wonderful moments of my life!
In all honesty though, I hope it inspires you as I was inspired. I am also aware that this will be pressing a lot of buttons and since giving birth to Uma, I’ve heard them all and it’s ok. No one ever got anywhere with trying not to annoy anyone. But go in with a little curiosity, you might just surprise yourself. Take what inspires and leave behind what doesn't. There is no 'one size fits all' and if I have learned something from this birth experience it's that, people will judge you no matter what you do…like REALLY. So let everyone be and do it anyway...if it makes your heart sing, ok? Here we go!
This is definitely not an advert of "wooo hooo! get your freebirth on" because if anything, having passed through it, I now know it is really not for everyone. It is hard work in preparations, it is reading and researching more than you've probably ever done before, it is standing up for yourself again and again when the general consensus and consciousness is going the other way, it is taking FULL and utter responsibility of any outcome during the birth. But then again amongst all this, is the utter joy and indescribable fulfilment that comes with the possibility of giving birth to your baby exactly the way you want...ahhh total bliss beyond measure.
So, I will share my story bit by bit. Maybe weekly, maybe daily, depending on when I don't have a poo/pee filled nappy to change and some free time to write. I'll start from the beginning. What inspired me, what I bought, where I bought them from, links to what I read (books, websites etc etc), which groups I joined, which friends I made, what practices I did, what I painted, my prayers, celebrations, the whole lot. Because choosing to Free birth my baby was not a decision I came to after drinking a nice cup of tea and skipping around in a daisy-filled meadow. The possibility of the idea started floating around my head probably about 2 or 3 months before birth. When I was like…. Can I? Really? Hmmmmmm
In all of this please remember, I am no doctor or midwife neither do I intend to be one. I am just a well informed woman sharing her down-to-earth and uncomplicated birth journey.
My prayer is for more and more women to take the reigns and start being in the driving seat with regards to their choices in childbirth. Is everything we hear really in the best interest of women or is it an information based on decades and decades of fear mongering amongst pregnant women to the point where the norm is to doubt the power of creation?
Next post- I’ll start from how it all began. I pee-d on a stick...Ooo yes and not a fancy one at that ;-)
Till next time.... Peace!